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The Golddigger

“Now I ain’t sayin’ she a gold digger 
But she ain’t messin’ wit no broke, broke…”

Golddigger:  Any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man’s bank account than she does about the man.   The closest male equivalent is a gigolo or boytoy.  (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=golddigger)

So now that the definition is clarified, do you know one?  Have you come across one?  For the guys out there, doesn’t it just frustrate you when a girl just uses you for your money?  You thought she cared, but all she really did was suck up your wallet?  You thought she was the down with you but she just wanted to get her newest edition of Coach, Luis Vuitton, Gucci…etc…etc.  For the girls who’ve been accused on being one, isn’t it insulting to think that guys would assume you can’t buy your own stuff?  That you are manipulative  and all you wanted was a free ride?  It sucks and I don’t get it either.  I mean seriously, I don’t get it, why is there a negative connotation on being the gold digger?  Why does this term even exist?

Now hear me out on this before you get all excited and start giving me examples on how the last gold digger broke your heart and your bank account.  Guys, why did you spend on your lady?  Think back as to why you dug deep into your pocket to get her that Canadian Goose down jacket?  Did you do it to impress her or her friends?  Did you do it because you thought you were going to get some?  Did you do it because you genuinely care for the her?  If you did it for any other reason than genuinely care for her, then you are quite pathetic to think that buying her stuff will open venues and you’re just overall not a very smart cookie.  If you did it because you had strong feelings for her and you really just wanted to keep her warm with her new jacket, or make her look good in front of her friends because she’s your princess, then why would you keep track on what you spent on her and call her a gold digger?  You willingly paid for it, so why put it on her?  Unless she stole it, then she’s a thief and not a gold digger.  If you were in the type of relationship in which you know she didn’t really care for you and you continued to buy her stuff, you must have been getting something in return that’s why you stayed with her.  This is a business transaction, you get yours and she gets hers.  This is a mutual understanding so there shouldn’t be complaints.  If you feel like you were being ripped off and finally left her, lost cause…move on.

For those who accuse a lady for being a gold digger because you didn’t think she cared for you and only wanted your money, why would you spend on her if you felt that she wasn’t even really interested in you?  It doesn’t make sense to me.  If you feel manipulated because she made you feel like a king so you spent money on her and then left you, sorry to break it to you but she left you and that’s that.  It doesn’t really matter why or what she did in the relationship, she left you for something better…better life, better career, better man…at least in her world, it’s the better option.  I am sorry for your loss but you can’t all of a sudden start calling her a gold digger because she rang up a tab and ran.  Being with in a relationship meant giving up some time to be with her and spending on her is part of it.  Be a real man and let it go and have some dignity left in you.  Companies who lost people don’t go around calling their last worker a gold digger.

Of course this situation is applicable on reversed role, guy simply using the girl for her money.  By no means am I promoting manipulation to gain materialistic things off of your partner, I’m simply confused as to why do we look down on the gold diggers, why is this term even used?


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